A man just asked if I would “sit on him like a toilet, respectfully.”
I tried visiting Ryan’s personal website but it’s been taken down, I hope he found someone who (as he went on to request) is a “beautiful woman who can keep a house clean”. I can proudly say that’s not me, Ryan.
This idea has been mulling about in my mind, festering in my Notes app where all my nasty little fermenting ideas go, and it appears we have reached the celebratory uncorking of the concept.
Feminine rage
And though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death (the waterfront on a sunny day) I will fear no evil (frat boys en masse).
Not on my level? Allow me to piss you off.
4 Book Recommendations To Induce Feminine Rage
Triggers: gun violence, misogyny, SA, racism
This is a roughie!
This book is not pro-whimsy in the slightest. It is actually quite anti-whimsy. It may trigger waves of incredible despair.
However! It is an important book – I absolutely won’t argue that. I am grateful to Laura Bates for her work – between this novel and her work in and around the “manosphere” (a term I hate that I’m even familiar with). That being said, I’d do research beyond my weak blurb before diving into this book. Nearly every trigger I could imagine is tied in somehow and it’s just overall really icky.
Triggers: SA, body shaming
I had no concept of EmRata prior to reading her memoir except for all of the absolutely rancid thoughts from men I’d seen trickle through the bowels of the internet. After reading this? I respect her so much. She has been used and abused by the industry and men in her life and stood tall throughout. Her memoir shines light on an industry we all know is corrupt, misogynistic, and nasty – but EmRata spares her abusers absolutely no crumbs. She is intelligent, eloquent, and has been through hell.
Triggers : SA
Published in 2019.
This is a highly data driven, it’s very dense. It’s very frustrating! It took me a few tries to get through, and I don’t usually put books down after I start them (stubborn). This book just frustrated me that much. It’s incredibly well-written, I can tell Criado Perez is passionate about everything she has researched and she has researched it extensively. My warning is to go into this with a buffer for your own mental health – take breaks when you get frustrated by the information that you are absolutely certain you’ve been affected by rings true.
This is a short case study published in 2021 in Journal of Nepal Medical Association regarding “Yentl Syndrome” or the underdiagnosis of ischemic heart disease in women who do not exhibit stereotypical “Hollywood” heart attack symptoms on hospital admission. For a journal publication, it’s concise, clear, and easy to comprehend. Criado Perez covers Yentl Syndrome as well as a few other examples of gender bias in modern medicine that often fatally impact women. I also want to recognize that women of color as well as trans and queer women are disproportionately disadvantaged by these already biased practices. Of course!
Medical malpractice – especially as it affects folks who are already so disadvantaged by the society they are plopped into – really grinds my gallstones. I see a lot of people die and honestly, it’s 2024 and we can do better. People should keep dying, dying is good and necessary. But there are preventable deaths and there are deaths that only happen to certain people because they couldn’t get care that they had the absolute, fundamental rights to access. That is bad dying, unnecessary dying.
Published 1892.
This one is fiction, but it’s based on the reality for a lot of women of this time period. Women facing any form of mental illness – in this case, presumed postpartum depression – were often barred-up in their own homes, infantilized, marked as clinically-insane for life and forgotten. This is a classic, quick read and spawns one of my absolute favorite phrases in literature: “blessed little goose”.
If this pissed you off because – wow! – there’s so much to be angry about, I will have many more recommendations in the future.
If this pissed you off because my writing is deplorable : (
be nice to me I’m already stressed out about enough in this world.
pro-whimsy agenda 